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Love this story Andrei, I smiled while reading it. I’m happy that you found a great mate. It makes all the difference.

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I’m glad it made you smile! I had a really great time writing this piece.

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I could tell

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Feb 15Liked by Andrei Atanasov

Loved this, Andrei. It made me think about the ways I helped make my husband more demonstrative with affection and also more communicative. He in turn helped me to stop constantly reading into his silence or his supposed intentions around things.

I often say that I think communication should be taught starting in elementary school. It should be considered more vital than math and history. Think of the conflicts that could be avoided or worked out less violently. It’s so essential to learning how to respect those with whom we are in relationships - friends, family, coworkers, and intimate partners alike.

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That's a really good idea! Effective communication is crucial, and most of us don't know a thing about it. Thanks for reading!

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Feb 14Liked by Andrei Atanasov

Love this… found myself thinking oh yes, that’s us, and that and that…..

yes I do know what fractal is - and it’s just fascinating!

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So glad you found yourself in the text! Ahh, fractals… an example of beautiful mathematics at work in the world, no?

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Married life is such bliss and comfort when you adapt to each other. It's so true how couples just know each other eventually, read each other's minds, finish each other's sentences, anticipate each other's needs, act as one unit eventually. More days of happiness, laughter, and spontaneous moments to you both!

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Appreciate it! It is blissful, to be sure, to be in sync with one’s mate.

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Seriously! :')

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I liked how you portrayed this story about becoming; it's a happy story, in the sens that makes you smile while reading, and I liked how you opened up in writing about it, like a couple's journal, and how every beginning is about getting to know each other, and how conflicts are so important; we cannot grow without introspection and conflict. Great writing style! Thank you.

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Thank you for reading and for all your compliments!

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The years race by, you'll see. No mind reading required. And re: coffee, only drink the good kind! Have you started grinding fresh beans by hand yet? A small Hario will do the trick.

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I have not, not yet. There are so many things left to discover. I am but a humble padawan. Thanks for reading!

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Feb 22Liked by Andrei Atanasov

So heartwarming- loved this read!

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Thank you so much, Tracy!

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"I can read minds (well, her mind)."

My wife and I've hit that point pretty hard core this year (we've been together for 6.5 years). We'll be going around doing something, I'll crack a joke or she'll make an observation, we'll immediately be like "I was thinking exactly the same thing." Which wouldn't feel weird but it'd be the sort of stretched associations you get like the "I saw a billboard advertising glasses and remembered The Waste Land which got me thinking about how classics are taught in English class which reminded me of my teacher's curly hair which is why I just remembered that funny curly haired dog we saw ten days ago anyway remember that dog?" style associations. Stuff that should not connect outside of oneself.

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Yes, a pretty surreal experience. Thanks a lot for reading!

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Feb 18Liked by Andrei Atanasov

Reading about your happy married life and the evolution you've experimented since you are together with your wife, made me smile. In this days is hard to read happy things or even happy people, so thank you once more to share with us your day by day life. 😊 Evolution is part of life, and you are lucky to be able to share the process with your wife.

Talking about coffee, I like it cappuchino too 😉

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Thank you so much for reading! Yes, I try to provide some hope and happiness once in a while. Not all my posts are happy, as I’m not always happy, of course, but I always try to end on a hopeful note, because I’m an optimist 🤗

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Feb 18Liked by Andrei Atanasov

Brilliant! I think it's amazing how much you can change as an adult, the whole you can't teach an old dog new tricks logic is nonsense (not that I'm calling you old).

However I still can't drink coffee - it is vile.

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Thanks for reading! And yeah, I don’t believe in that either. People change from year to year. Even an 85 year old will change by the time they’re 90. You can learn a whole new skillset in 5 years!

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Feb 17Liked by Andrei Atanasov

What a thoughtful reflection on the love you two share. Since meeting my husband, I also have learned an abundance of facts. He is like a walking encyclopedia—it’s amazing! ☺️ It’s quite something to realize how much there is to learn about ourselves, the world, and another.

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Yes, it’s quite shocking how different and yet alike two human beings can be. At times, it feels like we belong to two totally different species, while at other times I wonder how I ever survived without her.

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Feb 16Liked by Andrei Atanasov

I still don't drink coffee but someone once said to me "you really look like the sort of guy who likes wanky coffee" - not a compliment I don't think!

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Nope, definitely not!

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Feb 16Liked by Andrei Atanasov

Cats, ironing and talking about your feelings...true love

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Indeed!

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Actually have undergone a very similar coffee experience to this. And I really like flat whites now—less foamy. Interesting reflections, Andrei.

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Thank you for reading, Levi! I always appreciate your contributions.

Flat whites are great, but the foaminess of softer variants is the selling point for me. At least right now, as a coffee newb. Maybe I’ll grow to favor strong coffee again at some point.

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My husband turned me into a coffee addict, too. Now I wouldn't have it any other way 🤣

But seriously, this was a really lovely reflection. Nick and I met young and have been together for 10 years (!), so this got me thinking about how our lives have melded together and what I would have been like if left to my own devices. It's a fun thought experiment (and the conclusion is I'd probably just eat a LOT of junky snacks instead of home-cooked meals, like a normal person).

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Sam, you and I are kindred spirits! 😂 Thank God for our spouses.

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I loved reading this! I briefly went back to drinking coffee for about 8 weeks back in 2022 on Friday mornings-I had to get up stupid early to be at a remote place for a field school that I had signed up for that fall semester. There was no way that I was driving that early without caffeine, so I’d stop at a gas station and fill their smallest available coffee cup 1/2 way and drink it on the way to the field school. Before that, I hadn’t really had a true cup of coffee (black with a small amount of half and half) since my highschool/early college days, lol (2003-2008). Lately I’ve been thinking about getting back on coffee, but my brain hasn’t convinced the rest of me yet, haha

When I saw the fractal comment, my mind went back to an artist who uses fractals and mathmatics in her artwork. The museum I use to work at did an exhibit that featured her work. I can’t remember her name, but I’ll find some pics I took of her work and email them to you. It was one of my favorite exhibits while working there!

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Ooo, that sounds interesting. Looking forward to seeing them.

To be honest, I don’t drink coffee because I need it. I can function rather well without it. I just really enjoy it these days. If you don’t, there’s no reason to force things. Thanks for reading, Kimber!

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